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i needed this, thank you

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Thank you so much for your vulnerability. I also grew up with a mom who always wanted to lose weight and with aunts and family friends who went on about the same thing. I have lived years imagining what my life would be like if I had grown up skinny but I remember losing weight once, for a year at sixteen, and it was traumatizing. I had always been visible as a fat child, a fat teenager, but as a once-fat-now-not 16-year-old, I wasn’t prepared for the hypervisibility. I gained back the weight (and then some) later on but I am working on my relationship with food and exercise. I have detached myself from the idea of weight loss and I just think about incorporating movement into my routine weekly. I’m a few years older than you and with therapy, I can honestly say it has gotten better. Wishing you lots of love to you and your mom <3

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my brain ate this while my mouth ate my own buttered toast - my most cherished morning ritual. what an experience to come upon these final words and then swallow them!

love xx

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Jan 29Liked by Nami

literally trying not to sob on the bus right now at how familiar this is

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“There is no male relative demanding I explain the space I take up in my quietness. There is only my mother, and her inadequacies, and the little girl inside her with the breaking heart.” 💔 thank you for sharing your and your mother’s beautiful, vulnerable selves with us 🤍

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Jan 29Liked by Nami

Amazing, illuminating, heartbreaking, thank you for writing and sharing. I connect to a lot of aspects of this experience and have always thought WW needs to answer for their crimes against women and children

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shawtie did our maternal families fall off the SAME TREE OMG

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